David killed Goliath with 5 stones and a sling.
But why did David pick 5 stones where there was only one giant?
He has no faith? Thinking that if he missed one, he still have four more chances??
If you read the story further in 2Samuel, you will realised that Goliath had 4 sons.
That means, there were 5 giants! Which means to say, David wanted to kill the 5 giants all at one shot!
He has faith. Great faith! And his faith is specific. 5 giants, 5 stones.
He didnt go by the natural, bring 5 stones to kill 1 giant - flawed faith.
He didnt presume that he could kill more than 5 giants - presumptuous faith.
He has faith. And his faith is specific.
Dont be frustrated when you see the problems. Take one giant at a time.
15 December 2005
14 December 2005
Chew on it!
I was reading a book this morning, and i felt this story is good!
While hopping about one day, a frog happened to slip into a very large pothole along a country road.
All of his attempts at jumping out were in vain. Soon a rabbit came upon the frog trapped in the hole and offered to help him out. He, too, failed. After various animals from the forest made three or four gallant attempts to help the poor frog out, they finally gave up. "We'll go back and get you some food," they said. "It looks like you're going to be here for a while."
However, not long after, they took off to get food, they heard the frog hopping along after them. They couldnt believe it! "We thought you couldnt get out!" they exclaimed. "Oh, i couldnt," replied the frog. "But you see, there was a big truck coming right at me, and I HAD TO."
(compliments: Attitude 101 - J C Maxwell. Thanks to Kevin for lending me the book)
As long as we have acceptable options, we will not change.You must have the desire to change!
***
After bible study tonight, David, Alvin and i went to meet this new friend whom one of Alvin's friend recommended.
He is trying to introduce the MLM business to us, and we are trying to reach out to him. Can you see, we are converting each other. Both parties are at the market place, but marketing different thing. hahah.
i was just sitting there, trying to look interested, listening. And i find something very ironic.
Let me give you some background of this guy. He is 22 years old. Been in this business for 6 months, part time working, part time studying. He is a irregular attender of our church.
We are in the discussion about Time. Saying that we have no time for a business like his because we want to spend more time in church. We want to have a freed up lifestyle and to serve God the best that we know how. So this guys talked about prioritizing, setting the time aside. If we are in this business, we must be committed to it and to give it our time in order to be successful in this business.
Woo. I thought he never know about prioritizing!
That was what we were conveying to him about coming to God half the time throughout the conversation when he said that he has no time to commit. And there he is, talking about committments himself, trying to convince us into this business, without realising that he can actually use this belief of his, arrange his life and make room for God! I felt that we are like earthworm. Two heads, sharing the same body (belief - about committment only), but heading different direction.
This guy has no desire to change. He has an acceptable option - to stay free every sat/sun for friends, family, money, hobby etc. For this instance, he has to wait for a big truck (crisis) to come, to make him HAD to jump out of the pothole - for a good cause, of course. =)
While hopping about one day, a frog happened to slip into a very large pothole along a country road.
All of his attempts at jumping out were in vain. Soon a rabbit came upon the frog trapped in the hole and offered to help him out. He, too, failed. After various animals from the forest made three or four gallant attempts to help the poor frog out, they finally gave up. "We'll go back and get you some food," they said. "It looks like you're going to be here for a while."
However, not long after, they took off to get food, they heard the frog hopping along after them. They couldnt believe it! "We thought you couldnt get out!" they exclaimed. "Oh, i couldnt," replied the frog. "But you see, there was a big truck coming right at me, and I HAD TO."
(compliments: Attitude 101 - J C Maxwell. Thanks to Kevin for lending me the book)
As long as we have acceptable options, we will not change.You must have the desire to change!
***
After bible study tonight, David, Alvin and i went to meet this new friend whom one of Alvin's friend recommended.
He is trying to introduce the MLM business to us, and we are trying to reach out to him. Can you see, we are converting each other. Both parties are at the market place, but marketing different thing. hahah.
i was just sitting there, trying to look interested, listening. And i find something very ironic.
Let me give you some background of this guy. He is 22 years old. Been in this business for 6 months, part time working, part time studying. He is a irregular attender of our church.
We are in the discussion about Time. Saying that we have no time for a business like his because we want to spend more time in church. We want to have a freed up lifestyle and to serve God the best that we know how. So this guys talked about prioritizing, setting the time aside. If we are in this business, we must be committed to it and to give it our time in order to be successful in this business.
Woo. I thought he never know about prioritizing!
That was what we were conveying to him about coming to God half the time throughout the conversation when he said that he has no time to commit. And there he is, talking about committments himself, trying to convince us into this business, without realising that he can actually use this belief of his, arrange his life and make room for God! I felt that we are like earthworm. Two heads, sharing the same body (belief - about committment only), but heading different direction.
This guy has no desire to change. He has an acceptable option - to stay free every sat/sun for friends, family, money, hobby etc. For this instance, he has to wait for a big truck (crisis) to come, to make him HAD to jump out of the pothole - for a good cause, of course. =)
13 December 2005
Bite on it
I overheard a conversation in the lift today. It goes like this...
Man: "what are you listening to?"
Woman: "songs lo..."
Any answer lamer than that?!?
conclusion:
1. The woman does not understand what the man is asking. (maybe thats why man and woman are still trying to understand each other! haha. Hmm.. actually not neccessary though, sometimes it happens with man-man, woman-woman. hee)
2. The man is not specific in his asking. So the woman is not wrong with her answer also.
3. But common sense tells us that what the man meant was, "what songs are you listening to?" (if i know that you SAW me listening to a MP3 player, of course i would anticipate that you are actually asking me what songs im listening to! - its like: you see me sitting infront of a big TV watching a programme. "What are you watching?" "TV." ~.~"' hello?? anybody home?? The TV not big enough? duh)
4. Lame question, lame answer. (you get what you give. Give peanuts? you get monkeys!)
ok la, one thing i have learnt is that communication is really a skill. You got to be really specific in order to be understood. In this case, none is at fault. Even if i have to choose one, i would say the man who asked the question is at a much fault than the woman who answered it.
By asking question, you are trying to lead someone to something. Thus, you are a leader. A leader brings someone to the right place, in this case, to give the right answer. Isnt it what it is all about? Leaders inspire people to make the right decisions in their life. Follow the wrong leader, you ended up in the zoo! Well, nothing wrong with the zoo. The question is, 'what kind of zoo'? The Open Safari kind, or the one which keeps animals in captivity?
Man: "what are you listening to?"
Woman: "songs lo..."
Any answer lamer than that?!?
conclusion:
1. The woman does not understand what the man is asking. (maybe thats why man and woman are still trying to understand each other! haha. Hmm.. actually not neccessary though, sometimes it happens with man-man, woman-woman. hee)
2. The man is not specific in his asking. So the woman is not wrong with her answer also.
3. But common sense tells us that what the man meant was, "what songs are you listening to?" (if i know that you SAW me listening to a MP3 player, of course i would anticipate that you are actually asking me what songs im listening to! - its like: you see me sitting infront of a big TV watching a programme. "What are you watching?" "TV." ~.~"' hello?? anybody home?? The TV not big enough? duh)
4. Lame question, lame answer. (you get what you give. Give peanuts? you get monkeys!)
ok la, one thing i have learnt is that communication is really a skill. You got to be really specific in order to be understood. In this case, none is at fault. Even if i have to choose one, i would say the man who asked the question is at a much fault than the woman who answered it.
By asking question, you are trying to lead someone to something. Thus, you are a leader. A leader brings someone to the right place, in this case, to give the right answer. Isnt it what it is all about? Leaders inspire people to make the right decisions in their life. Follow the wrong leader, you ended up in the zoo! Well, nothing wrong with the zoo. The question is, 'what kind of zoo'? The Open Safari kind, or the one which keeps animals in captivity?
02 November 2005
Thus saith Yi Lin...
Reading the creation of the world in Genesis on the top of the world... is splendid.
Standing on the 45th floor, with the magnificient seaview and the full horizon in sight, the word of God manifested its flesh right before my eyes.
"Then God said, "Let the waters under the heavens be gathered together into one place, and let the dry land appear": and it was so."
Scientist said the age of the earth is in its millions. I do not believe it as first, thinking the earth would be the most 6000+ years old. But after reading the bible, why not? God created the whole world in 6 days. 1 day in heaven is 1000 days on earth. Which means to say, the earth would be at least 6000-year old before God rested on the 7th day.
Think:
1. God created the greenery.
Gen 1:11 "Then God said, "Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb that yields seed, and the fruit tree that yields fruit according to its kind, whose seed is in itself, on the earth";
vs12 and it was so. And the earth brought forth grass, the herb that yields seed according to its kind. And God saw that it was good."
But the earth was not populated with trees and grass (according to its kind) at once. Because it says "the herb that yield seed grow according to its kind... whose seed is in itself, on the earth." God always start with a seed.
vs11 - God did the planting, the sowing. vs12 - His words was manifested into flesh.
So vs11 and vs12 is a 1000-day?
2. Gen 1: 21-25 "So God created great sea creatures and every little living thing that moves, with which the waters abounded, according to their kind, and every winged bird according to its kind. And God saw that it was good. And God blessed them, saying, "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let birds multiply on earth." So the evening and the morning were the fifth day. Then God said, "Let the earth bring forth the living creature according to its kind; cattle and creeping thing and beast of the earth, each according to its kind, and everything that creeps on the earth accodring to its kind. And God saw that it was good."
Standing on the 45th floor, with the magnificient seaview and the full horizon in sight, the word of God manifested its flesh right before my eyes.
"Then God said, "Let the waters under the heavens be gathered together into one place, and let the dry land appear": and it was so."
Scientist said the age of the earth is in its millions. I do not believe it as first, thinking the earth would be the most 6000+ years old. But after reading the bible, why not? God created the whole world in 6 days. 1 day in heaven is 1000 days on earth. Which means to say, the earth would be at least 6000-year old before God rested on the 7th day.
Think:
1. God created the greenery.
Gen 1:11 "Then God said, "Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb that yields seed, and the fruit tree that yields fruit according to its kind, whose seed is in itself, on the earth";
vs12 and it was so. And the earth brought forth grass, the herb that yields seed according to its kind. And God saw that it was good."
But the earth was not populated with trees and grass (according to its kind) at once. Because it says "the herb that yield seed grow according to its kind... whose seed is in itself, on the earth." God always start with a seed.
vs11 - God did the planting, the sowing. vs12 - His words was manifested into flesh.
So vs11 and vs12 is a 1000-day?
2. Gen 1: 21-25 "So God created great sea creatures and every little living thing that moves, with which the waters abounded, according to their kind, and every winged bird according to its kind. And God saw that it was good. And God blessed them, saying, "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let birds multiply on earth." So the evening and the morning were the fifth day. Then God said, "Let the earth bring forth the living creature according to its kind; cattle and creeping thing and beast of the earth, each according to its kind, and everything that creeps on the earth accodring to its kind. And God saw that it was good."
God has created the animals in pair - male and female. (Thats how God re-multiply the earth again after Noah's Ark. He asked Noah to gather two animals of each kind - male and female, so that the earth can be populated again) If God has created a hundreds or thousands of animals at one shot, then God would not say to the animals "be fruitful and multiply" (vs22). Whats there to multiply if there were already so many of them? yea.. you may argue that multiply into even more many animals.. but think...
3. God only created 2 persons in the Garden of Eden - Adam and Eve, Male and Female. This is how He started the human race. He also said to them "Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth." (Gen1:28) You get my point? God did not create half of the human generation in advance. So... if God created hundreds of animals all at one go, Adam and Eve and their decendants would not be able to finish them for hundreds and thousands of years! yea, God is a God of abundance. We wont be able to finish up all the animals on earth. But my point is, God is a God of balance also.. so His abandance comes when He created the animals before man, so that animals can multiply first before man come and consume them, at the same time balancing the population between man and animals. If God were to create man first, then i think man would be vegetarian liao. haha
What i shared here is only 'Thus says Lin..", not "thus says the Lord.." k.. so above has no concrete prove. Just my little inspiration as i was reading the bible. Please correct me if i am wrong. Lets discuss if you have the time. =)
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Gen 2:9 - And out of the ground the LORD God made every tree grow that is pleasant to the sight and good for food. The tree of life was also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.
Man was made "innocent". Man was created not to know evil, but good. I think thats why a defandant can be set free when he was proven innocent. Jesus was innocent of all sins, thats why He pleased His Father.
Be innocent for Christ!
15 September 2005
Archie
my dear bought me No.20 Archie comic today. so sweet.
I love every bits of Archies! Thank you! thank you! THANK YOU!!!!!!
A couple of strips caught me. Here's one, i find it rather... er.. humoruous. (you may beg to differ)
Little Reggie saying to Little Archie and Little Jughead:
"A peanut sat on a railroad track-- his heart was all aflutter!
A train came along the way-- Toot! Toot! PEANUT BUTTER!"
(HAHahhaHAHAHha..) er.. not funny? hee.
maybe you need to understand the character of Reggie in order to see the humorous line of this gag.
anyway.
i learnt something too!
Little Jinx: (happily, leaping with joy) Well, Charley! I made it! I got promoted!
Charley: I feel funny, little Jinx! I thought our teacher didnt like me, but I've changed my mind..
Little Jinx: Oh, really, Charley, why?
Charley: I overheard her talking about me to another teacher.. She said it was the happiest day of her life when i was promoted to the next grade.
Little Jinx pengz.
True as it may be. There are people like Charley.
May not be bad. At least, he is positive of himself.
I believe this is one of the vital thing anyone should be and have.
However, it may not be good either.
He may be too full of himself and no teachability.
Life, trial and error.
Everyone is trying to balance the Balance Sheet of life.
However, we can always open a suspense account when our life is out of balance.
After much evaluation and investigation, closed the suspense accounts and GO! get your Balance Sheet balanced.
BUT, dont keep the accounts suspended for too long.
Problems still have to be rooted out, deep.
if you do Accounting, you would know what i am saying.
***
i love Archies
(how true! haha)
I love every bits of Archies! Thank you! thank you! THANK YOU!!!!!!
A couple of strips caught me. Here's one, i find it rather... er.. humoruous. (you may beg to differ)
Little Reggie saying to Little Archie and Little Jughead:
"A peanut sat on a railroad track-- his heart was all aflutter!
A train came along the way-- Toot! Toot! PEANUT BUTTER!"
(HAHahhaHAHAHha..) er.. not funny? hee.
maybe you need to understand the character of Reggie in order to see the humorous line of this gag.
anyway.
i learnt something too!
Little Jinx: (happily, leaping with joy) Well, Charley! I made it! I got promoted!
Charley: I feel funny, little Jinx! I thought our teacher didnt like me, but I've changed my mind..
Little Jinx: Oh, really, Charley, why?
Charley: I overheard her talking about me to another teacher.. She said it was the happiest day of her life when i was promoted to the next grade.
Little Jinx pengz.
True as it may be. There are people like Charley.
May not be bad. At least, he is positive of himself.
I believe this is one of the vital thing anyone should be and have.
However, it may not be good either.
He may be too full of himself and no teachability.
Life, trial and error.
Everyone is trying to balance the Balance Sheet of life.
However, we can always open a suspense account when our life is out of balance.
After much evaluation and investigation, closed the suspense accounts and GO! get your Balance Sheet balanced.
BUT, dont keep the accounts suspended for too long.
Problems still have to be rooted out, deep.
if you do Accounting, you would know what i am saying.
***
i love Archies
(how true! haha)
31 August 2005
I.Q vs A.Q
I.Q = Intelligent Quotient
A.Q = Attitude Quotient
A Yale University present some years ago gave an advice to a former present of Ohio state:
Always be kind to your A and B student. Someday one of them will return to your campus as a good professor. And also be kind to your C students. Someday one of them will return and build a two-million-dollar science laboratory.
***
Wow, wOW and WOW! what a powerful speech. There's always hope for those who doesnt do well academically! (but well, please dont use this as a leeway not to work hard!)
There is very little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference.
The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
But i feel that this story can bring another message too. Dont just persue life. You may be at the top of everything, i.e. a very successful career, top student in school, ace relationship with family and friends.. but yet, persue the life Giver, who can give you more abundantly.
He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
-Matthew 10:39
30 August 2005
Attitude
Attitude is really about how a person is. That overflows into how he acts. Here's a story to share...
A grandpa and a grandma visit their grandchildren very often. Each afternoon the grandpa will lie down for a nap. One day, as a practical joke, the kids decided to put Limburger cheese in this mustache. Quite soon he awoke sniffing. "Why, this room stinks.." he exclaimed as he got up and went out into the kitchen., He wasnt there long until he decided that the kitchen smelled too, so he walked outdoors for a breathe of fresh air. Much to grandpa's surprise, the open air brought no relief, and he proclaimed, "The whole world stinks"
Isnt it so true? We carry "Limburger cheese" in our attitudes, the whole world smells bad. We are individually responsible for our view of life. Truth has contained in the scripture, "For whatever a man sow, he will surely reap". Our attitude toward and action in life help determine what happens to us.
Life is not easy. Almost daily we witness jobs that are held but hated and marriages hat are tolerated but unhappy, all because people are wiating for others, or the world, to change instead of realizing that they are responsible for their own behavior.
Our attitude determines our approach to life. So change.
***
Just a drop of dew
Can make your life anew~
24 August 2005
Big pockets, small mind
I came across an article yesterday in Her World magazine.
Was fuming mad when i read it. How on earth such people exist in here?!
Its a long article, but want to blog it out and share with you guys and gals,
Please, when you become rich one day, dont become like this..
***
"What rich women do to stay rich"
A young woman walks into a high-end boutique and picks up five dresses but pays only for two.
Two doors away is her regular jeweller, where she tries on a necklace and matching set of earrings. She pays only for the necklace, and waltzes out the door with the gold and diamond chandelier earrings swinging off her ears.
At the makeup counter in the department store, she tries everything, buys nothing, then leaves with a bag full of samples - all in full sizes. Then its off to her plastic surgeon's clinic, where she;s booked for a Botox and microdermabrasion session.
She emerges hours later with a fresh new face and no intention of paying for the procedures. "I'll pay you the next time," she lies breezily to the glabbergasted nurse as she climbs into her Lexus and drives home to her three-storey terrance off Orchard Road.
If you're looking around for store security and the police to show up by now, dont bother. No one has blown the whistle on Vicky (no her real name), and n one likely will.
Enter the world of the rich woman who gets away with plunder.
Vicky has, in the spce of one afternoon, left behind thousands of dollars in unpaid bills. She can afford to pay those bills many times over, but expects the stores and plastic surgeon to write them off. What is more alarming is that they will. Case closed.
Why are women like Vicky, a 31-year-old single who receives a few thousand dollars in pocket money a month from her father, above the simple laws of the land? The answer is simple: because she is rich.
Vicky is a customer that these businesses cannot afford to lose, because she has proven at least once before that she has the means to ring up huge bills - and pay up. More importantly, she also has friends who can.
"I spend a lot at these place that i patronise, and I'm always introducing my many girlfriends to them. They should be prepared to give out freebies to keep customers like me," says the impeccably groomed socialite, whose parents have two maids and two cars for their family of four. What most people would loook upon as daylight robbery, Vicky thinks is just good customer service.
As the first link in a chain of big spenders, she feels entitled to rewards for her part as a deal-maker. She calls her freebies her "commission" for recommending customers to her creditors.
"I am not a cheapskate. I have been contributing a lot to their business over the years. The clinic and stores can always call me to remind me about an unpaid bill, or remind when I'm there, but so far, i have heard nothing from them. What does that tell you? That they regard me as a very important customer."
There is no dispute there. These businesses that cater mainly to the wealthy all agree that such women are an invaluable asset when it comes to word-of-mouth publicity. But if they had a choice, they would rather be the first to offer thanks to these women thatn to have the thanks yanked out of them, and in ways that would raise an auditor's eyebrow.
To add salt to gaping wound, most of the friends whom these women recommend tend to share the same views on the Great Commission come payment time.
One retailer, who did not want to be named for fear of such women turning nasty on her, has put up with Vicky and her friends for years.
She recalls, "She came to my shop, bought about $200 worth of stuffs then helped herself to a few more items from the shelf - worth over $300 - all because she has been a regular for the last few years. telling her to put it back would only ruin the relationship. Chances are, she will get angry or offended and will never step into the shop again." The customers Vicky recommends dont help the shopowner recover her losses. "Her friends? They aren't very different. They expect free gifts too!" To which Vicky simply replies: "It's a matter of give and take; you help me, I help you."
People like her know they can get away with it because many store owners would rather keep quiet than take them to taks and risk them spreading negative publicity of the store to their rich pals.
Its an ugly word, but women like Vicky and her friends are freeloaders, and boutique owners and plastic surgeons are at a loss as to what they can do about them.
Why plastic surgeons alone and not all doctors? The smae reason why these women wouldnt pull a fast one at restaurants - you dont want to offend the one who prepares your food or fixes your heart. But with plastic surgery and aesthetic work, it's about elective surgery - and elective payment. A doctor in private practice observes with pained amusement that wealthy freeloaders "see it as an entitlement, that we doctors should think ourselves privileged that they would even consider us to touch their faces."
Its get more audacious than this, he adds: "some tell me after I've done the treatments: "Hey, I'm a walking advertisement for you. I've got lots of rich friends I can recommend to you, so why should i pay you?"
Then there is this unspoken presumption. "They have the impression that we make a lot of money from aestheic treatments and wouldnt feel the pinch of an unpaid bill."
Freeloaders who are less bold would show up at aesthetic clinics asking for "free trials", or blame the doctor for performing work that they didnt ask for.
Says a consultant dermatologist: "Soon after I introduced a new IPL machine, i was bombarded by calls from 'old friends' whom i dont remember meeting at parties i dont remember attending. They will come to my clinic, ask for the cheapest treatment, then agree to add-ons when they're being treated.
"If my nurse asks them to settle the bill, they will say they didnt ask for the add-ons, that i suggested they try it so that shouldnt have to pay. Usually, i'd let such cases go than to stand there and haggle with them."
Such save-money, lose-face methods are not the domain of wealthy women. Men, too, are guilty - and so are famous personalities. A senior dermatologist in public practice recalls how years ago, one popular Singaporean actor tried to get away without paying his bill of thousands of dollars.
"He said he would pay up later, but we never heard from him. Later, we called him, but the number was no longer in use. We also sent reminders to his house, but the letters got returned because he wasnt living there anymore. In the end, we just dropped the as it wasnt worth the hassle."
One day, the same actor calls the clinic for an appointment. "He must have forgotten that he owed us money - or hoped that we had," says the doctor. "The nurse recognised his voice and reminded him that he had an unpaid bill. He said he would send the cheque but he never did, and that was the last we heard from him."
While the five plastic surgeons, aesthetic doctors and dermatologists we spoke to have all come across wealthy patients who default on payment, the numbers are not staggering enough to warrant strong action.
An Orchard Road dermatologist puts the number of bad debtors at under 1 per cent, "despite repeated reminders." Cosmetic surgeon Martin Huang of MD Specialist Healthcare says unpaid bills can come up to several thousands dollars annually. Others sat it ranges of between a few hundred to a few thousand.
It may not seem like much, but as one general practitioner who offers aesthetic treatments puts it, "every doctors who are stuggling to keep their practices open because of bad debt.
Among retailers, the losses are less significant. One estimates that such "free advertising" cost her about $500 to $1000 a month. Others put it at $200 to $300 per person. Instead of reporting these culprits to the authorities, or filing a claim at the Small Claims Tribunal (which handles cases where less than $10,000 is at stake), everyone is keeping mum, sayin it's not worth the time, money and goodwill.
Says a boutique owner, "These taitais can be very influential. If they badmouth my store to their friends, i may lost more money than the value of freebies i am forced to give out."
For plastic surgeons, many of these freeloaders are social acquaintance of their friends' wives - whom they may be seated next to at the next society do. If they dont keep mum, rest assured that any frozen looks cast at them then wont be caused by Botox.
Not every creditor is taking this financial sitting down.
Common practice among the plastic surgeons we spoke to is to keep a little black book of tardy patients. "We wont turn them away, but we will ask them ot put a 20 per cent deposit when a surgery date is booked and to pay up on the day of surgery," says Dr Huang. "Is she has a bad credit assessment in our records, we will ask her to pay the full sum before any work is done."
And instead of offering package deals, where a patient is more likely to stop returning once they see some improvment to their looks, doctors are turning to pay per-treatment services. Others simple decline requests for deferred payments.
A patient has even thrown a tantrum at one such clinic, where she dramatically overturned her handbag and emptied it of its contents to show that she really had no means to pay up there and then.
The nurse stood her ground long enough for the woman to relent and finally fish out a credit card - a platinum one, no less.
extracted from Her World, Septemeber issue P144 to P146
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i have learnt something. The world is never fair. God is not fair. And please, rejoice that He is not a fair God. Blasphemous? Read on.
Fairness = You are not treated as an individual. You are being treated in a corporate view. Everyone get their fair share, the good and the evil.
Justice = You are being treated distinctively and uniquely. God gives you personal attention. And He treats you according to what you deserve. Good or evil.
God is better than fair. He is JUST! (well, the wicked will have their fare)
But woe to you who are rich, For you have received your consolation.
- Luke 6:24
So is he who lays up treasure for himself, and is not rich toward God.
- Luke 12:21
He has filled the hungry with good things, And the rich He has sent away empty.
- Luke 1:53
I must pray that i will not become like these taitais when i become rich! If i will be, please! dont let me be rich! i only want to be righteously rich. i want to be a blessing - big pockets, big mind and not forgetting, a big heart!
And you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you power to get wealth, that He may establish His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day.
-Deu 8:18
Then Jesus said to His disciples, "Assuredly, I say to you that it is hard for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. And again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.
- Matthew 19:23-24
My flesh says, "good verse! God, dont allow these rich taitais go to heaven!! yes!!" But my spirit says God loves them all, good or bad, He loves them all. I want to yield to my spirit, so i CHOOSE to be magnanimous. Anyway, who am i to judge? I felt happier and less unjustifiable. Anyway, its none of my business. hahha.
Yeah friends, its just a matter of A CHOICE.
There's so many things you can be angry and unhappy about..
com'on, choose to live longer.
Staying happy.
Was fuming mad when i read it. How on earth such people exist in here?!
Its a long article, but want to blog it out and share with you guys and gals,
Please, when you become rich one day, dont become like this..
***
"What rich women do to stay rich"
A young woman walks into a high-end boutique and picks up five dresses but pays only for two.
Two doors away is her regular jeweller, where she tries on a necklace and matching set of earrings. She pays only for the necklace, and waltzes out the door with the gold and diamond chandelier earrings swinging off her ears.
At the makeup counter in the department store, she tries everything, buys nothing, then leaves with a bag full of samples - all in full sizes. Then its off to her plastic surgeon's clinic, where she;s booked for a Botox and microdermabrasion session.
She emerges hours later with a fresh new face and no intention of paying for the procedures. "I'll pay you the next time," she lies breezily to the glabbergasted nurse as she climbs into her Lexus and drives home to her three-storey terrance off Orchard Road.
If you're looking around for store security and the police to show up by now, dont bother. No one has blown the whistle on Vicky (no her real name), and n one likely will.
Enter the world of the rich woman who gets away with plunder.
Vicky has, in the spce of one afternoon, left behind thousands of dollars in unpaid bills. She can afford to pay those bills many times over, but expects the stores and plastic surgeon to write them off. What is more alarming is that they will. Case closed.
Why are women like Vicky, a 31-year-old single who receives a few thousand dollars in pocket money a month from her father, above the simple laws of the land? The answer is simple: because she is rich.
Vicky is a customer that these businesses cannot afford to lose, because she has proven at least once before that she has the means to ring up huge bills - and pay up. More importantly, she also has friends who can.
"I spend a lot at these place that i patronise, and I'm always introducing my many girlfriends to them. They should be prepared to give out freebies to keep customers like me," says the impeccably groomed socialite, whose parents have two maids and two cars for their family of four. What most people would loook upon as daylight robbery, Vicky thinks is just good customer service.
As the first link in a chain of big spenders, she feels entitled to rewards for her part as a deal-maker. She calls her freebies her "commission" for recommending customers to her creditors.
"I am not a cheapskate. I have been contributing a lot to their business over the years. The clinic and stores can always call me to remind me about an unpaid bill, or remind when I'm there, but so far, i have heard nothing from them. What does that tell you? That they regard me as a very important customer."
There is no dispute there. These businesses that cater mainly to the wealthy all agree that such women are an invaluable asset when it comes to word-of-mouth publicity. But if they had a choice, they would rather be the first to offer thanks to these women thatn to have the thanks yanked out of them, and in ways that would raise an auditor's eyebrow.
To add salt to gaping wound, most of the friends whom these women recommend tend to share the same views on the Great Commission come payment time.
One retailer, who did not want to be named for fear of such women turning nasty on her, has put up with Vicky and her friends for years.
She recalls, "She came to my shop, bought about $200 worth of stuffs then helped herself to a few more items from the shelf - worth over $300 - all because she has been a regular for the last few years. telling her to put it back would only ruin the relationship. Chances are, she will get angry or offended and will never step into the shop again." The customers Vicky recommends dont help the shopowner recover her losses. "Her friends? They aren't very different. They expect free gifts too!" To which Vicky simply replies: "It's a matter of give and take; you help me, I help you."
People like her know they can get away with it because many store owners would rather keep quiet than take them to taks and risk them spreading negative publicity of the store to their rich pals.
Its an ugly word, but women like Vicky and her friends are freeloaders, and boutique owners and plastic surgeons are at a loss as to what they can do about them.
Why plastic surgeons alone and not all doctors? The smae reason why these women wouldnt pull a fast one at restaurants - you dont want to offend the one who prepares your food or fixes your heart. But with plastic surgery and aesthetic work, it's about elective surgery - and elective payment. A doctor in private practice observes with pained amusement that wealthy freeloaders "see it as an entitlement, that we doctors should think ourselves privileged that they would even consider us to touch their faces."
Its get more audacious than this, he adds: "some tell me after I've done the treatments: "Hey, I'm a walking advertisement for you. I've got lots of rich friends I can recommend to you, so why should i pay you?"
Then there is this unspoken presumption. "They have the impression that we make a lot of money from aestheic treatments and wouldnt feel the pinch of an unpaid bill."
Freeloaders who are less bold would show up at aesthetic clinics asking for "free trials", or blame the doctor for performing work that they didnt ask for.
Says a consultant dermatologist: "Soon after I introduced a new IPL machine, i was bombarded by calls from 'old friends' whom i dont remember meeting at parties i dont remember attending. They will come to my clinic, ask for the cheapest treatment, then agree to add-ons when they're being treated.
"If my nurse asks them to settle the bill, they will say they didnt ask for the add-ons, that i suggested they try it so that shouldnt have to pay. Usually, i'd let such cases go than to stand there and haggle with them."
Such save-money, lose-face methods are not the domain of wealthy women. Men, too, are guilty - and so are famous personalities. A senior dermatologist in public practice recalls how years ago, one popular Singaporean actor tried to get away without paying his bill of thousands of dollars.
"He said he would pay up later, but we never heard from him. Later, we called him, but the number was no longer in use. We also sent reminders to his house, but the letters got returned because he wasnt living there anymore. In the end, we just dropped the as it wasnt worth the hassle."
One day, the same actor calls the clinic for an appointment. "He must have forgotten that he owed us money - or hoped that we had," says the doctor. "The nurse recognised his voice and reminded him that he had an unpaid bill. He said he would send the cheque but he never did, and that was the last we heard from him."
While the five plastic surgeons, aesthetic doctors and dermatologists we spoke to have all come across wealthy patients who default on payment, the numbers are not staggering enough to warrant strong action.
An Orchard Road dermatologist puts the number of bad debtors at under 1 per cent, "despite repeated reminders." Cosmetic surgeon Martin Huang of MD Specialist Healthcare says unpaid bills can come up to several thousands dollars annually. Others sat it ranges of between a few hundred to a few thousand.
It may not seem like much, but as one general practitioner who offers aesthetic treatments puts it, "every doctors who are stuggling to keep their practices open because of bad debt.
Among retailers, the losses are less significant. One estimates that such "free advertising" cost her about $500 to $1000 a month. Others put it at $200 to $300 per person. Instead of reporting these culprits to the authorities, or filing a claim at the Small Claims Tribunal (which handles cases where less than $10,000 is at stake), everyone is keeping mum, sayin it's not worth the time, money and goodwill.
Says a boutique owner, "These taitais can be very influential. If they badmouth my store to their friends, i may lost more money than the value of freebies i am forced to give out."
For plastic surgeons, many of these freeloaders are social acquaintance of their friends' wives - whom they may be seated next to at the next society do. If they dont keep mum, rest assured that any frozen looks cast at them then wont be caused by Botox.
Not every creditor is taking this financial sitting down.
Common practice among the plastic surgeons we spoke to is to keep a little black book of tardy patients. "We wont turn them away, but we will ask them ot put a 20 per cent deposit when a surgery date is booked and to pay up on the day of surgery," says Dr Huang. "Is she has a bad credit assessment in our records, we will ask her to pay the full sum before any work is done."
And instead of offering package deals, where a patient is more likely to stop returning once they see some improvment to their looks, doctors are turning to pay per-treatment services. Others simple decline requests for deferred payments.
A patient has even thrown a tantrum at one such clinic, where she dramatically overturned her handbag and emptied it of its contents to show that she really had no means to pay up there and then.
The nurse stood her ground long enough for the woman to relent and finally fish out a credit card - a platinum one, no less.
extracted from Her World, Septemeber issue P144 to P146
***
i have learnt something. The world is never fair. God is not fair. And please, rejoice that He is not a fair God. Blasphemous? Read on.
Fairness = You are not treated as an individual. You are being treated in a corporate view. Everyone get their fair share, the good and the evil.
Justice = You are being treated distinctively and uniquely. God gives you personal attention. And He treats you according to what you deserve. Good or evil.
God is better than fair. He is JUST! (well, the wicked will have their fare)
But woe to you who are rich, For you have received your consolation.
- Luke 6:24
So is he who lays up treasure for himself, and is not rich toward God.
- Luke 12:21
He has filled the hungry with good things, And the rich He has sent away empty.
- Luke 1:53
I must pray that i will not become like these taitais when i become rich! If i will be, please! dont let me be rich! i only want to be righteously rich. i want to be a blessing - big pockets, big mind and not forgetting, a big heart!
And you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you power to get wealth, that He may establish His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day.
-Deu 8:18
Then Jesus said to His disciples, "Assuredly, I say to you that it is hard for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. And again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.
- Matthew 19:23-24
My flesh says, "good verse! God, dont allow these rich taitais go to heaven!! yes!!" But my spirit says God loves them all, good or bad, He loves them all. I want to yield to my spirit, so i CHOOSE to be magnanimous. Anyway, who am i to judge? I felt happier and less unjustifiable. Anyway, its none of my business. hahha.
Yeah friends, its just a matter of A CHOICE.
There's so many things you can be angry and unhappy about..
com'on, choose to live longer.
Staying happy.
23 August 2005
无颜的爱
爱，是什么颜色？浪漫热情的红色？
辛福快乐的黄色？
舒适迷情的橙色？
和谐清澈的禄色？
稳定忠诚的蓝色？
独立奢侈的紫色？
单纯完美的白色？
深而奥秘的黑色？
我说啊。。 爱，是无色。
透而清晰，毫无遐思，100%的纯洁。
让人看得彻底，看得清楚。
就是这样，简简单单。
简单爱。
在为这个blog做些research时，偶然的发现一个网站关于颜色。蛮好的。瞧一瞧！
http://www.mariaclaudiacortes.com/colors/Colors.html
***
教我如何去爱你。
我还在学习。
13 August 2005
Happy Birthday
Today is my bloggy 2nd birthday.
Happy birthday metamorphoziz.blogspot.com!
Nothing to blog.. but just want to share a pic of my friend..
Happy birthday metamorphoziz.blogspot.com!
Nothing to blog.. but just want to share a pic of my friend..
I love this pic! So cute and innocent!!
***
Life is great, so flaunt it!
09 August 2005
Inspired
Its FOP again. Been a long time since i went for FOP. for the past 3 years, i think?
Reached indoor at 6pm, doors has already opened, and the queue was huge.
Was directed to the balcony, but managed to find 3 seats on the "T" section. Diagonally from the stage. far far away. But gave up my seat and went to sit with Pascale's friends - Yanqi, Peihua and Poh Lin at the balcony.
First time at the balcony. lots of new songs by Hillsong and Delirious. Cant see the screen, cant catch the lyrics. Enjoy though. Atmosphere no good. But the presence of God is there. I can feel it. Strange. haa.
Lesson learnt: Atmosphere can be created. Presence cannot. God is real, you cant denied it.
After the meeting, met this man, Mr Wilson Tan. His stories are truly inspirational.
Saved at the age of 17.
By the age of 32, he was a general manager of a American company earning thousands. A man without any degree qualifications.
Spectaculated in shares, earned his millions. Couple of millions in his bank at his disposal.
Drove big car, stayed at a bungalow with 15 rooms at Holland Village.
Age 35. Puffed up by all this riches, thinking that he achieved it alone without God and backslided.
His befall begins. Lost two millions, four hundred thousands in debt. Wife and children left him. lost his house, his car. Declared bankruptcy.
No jobs. Heavily in debt. But he kept reading the bible despite he backslided and the Lord showed him Deu 8, Remember the Lord Your God..
"Beware that you do not forget the Lord your God by not keeping His commandments, His judgements, and His statues which i command you today, lest - when you have eaten and are full, and have built beautiful houses and dwell in them; and when your herds and your flocks multiply, and your silver and your gold are multiplied, and all that you have is multiplied; when your heart is lifted up, and you forget the Lord your God who brought you out of the land of Egypt, ... then it shall be, if you by any means forget the Lord your God, and follow other gods, and serve them and worship them, i testify against you this day that you shall surely perish."
He repented and picked himself up. He started his own business.
For 3.5 years, he has been praying for a financial breakthrough. Nothing. (most people prayed for 2 days and got angry with God.. but this man prayed for 3.5 years. See his persistency?) Worse still, his admin assistant stole his money. She didnt submit 5 quarters of GST and IRAS summoned him a fifteen thousand penalty.
In debt still, pocket zero cent. where to get the money?
He got angry and shouted at God one day. God finally spoke. Daniel 3:16-18, the story of Daniel and his three friends.
"Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-Nego answered and said to the king, "O Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. If that is the case, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnance, and He will deliver us from your hand, O king. But if not, let it be known to you, O king, that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up."
The word of God stroke his heart. He heard the Lord speaking to him. He has been loving God conditionally with strings attached expecting God to bless him each time he serve and give to the Lord. But for Daniel and hi s friends, they loved the Lord unconditionally. Even if God did not come true for them, they still choose to love the Lord and not serve other gods.
He repented immediately. That week he closed a one million dollars sale. That year, his company growth 1000% and ever since then, his company has been growing by 60% each year. He even set up two businesses, one, all profits to bless China, the other profits to bless India (if im not wrong, should be India). He was so blessed now simply because he gave the Lord his unconditional love - Lord, if you come through for me in this crisis, i will praise You, it didnt happen, i will praise You the same.
God is seeking for the unconditional love. Friends, when God did not answer your prayers and give you what you want, what would you do? Get angry with Him and leave Him? Then you missed out what loving God really is, and you will never experienced His unconditional love. His love is, even He knew the world would reject Him, He still come and die for you and me.. a love so true.
In all times, remember Romans 8:28,
"And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose."
All things work out for your good! Amen!!
Reached indoor at 6pm, doors has already opened, and the queue was huge.
Was directed to the balcony, but managed to find 3 seats on the "T" section. Diagonally from the stage. far far away. But gave up my seat and went to sit with Pascale's friends - Yanqi, Peihua and Poh Lin at the balcony.
First time at the balcony. lots of new songs by Hillsong and Delirious. Cant see the screen, cant catch the lyrics. Enjoy though. Atmosphere no good. But the presence of God is there. I can feel it. Strange. haa.
Lesson learnt: Atmosphere can be created. Presence cannot. God is real, you cant denied it.
After the meeting, met this man, Mr Wilson Tan. His stories are truly inspirational.
Saved at the age of 17.
By the age of 32, he was a general manager of a American company earning thousands. A man without any degree qualifications.
Spectaculated in shares, earned his millions. Couple of millions in his bank at his disposal.
Drove big car, stayed at a bungalow with 15 rooms at Holland Village.
Age 35. Puffed up by all this riches, thinking that he achieved it alone without God and backslided.
His befall begins. Lost two millions, four hundred thousands in debt. Wife and children left him. lost his house, his car. Declared bankruptcy.
No jobs. Heavily in debt. But he kept reading the bible despite he backslided and the Lord showed him Deu 8, Remember the Lord Your God..
"Beware that you do not forget the Lord your God by not keeping His commandments, His judgements, and His statues which i command you today, lest - when you have eaten and are full, and have built beautiful houses and dwell in them; and when your herds and your flocks multiply, and your silver and your gold are multiplied, and all that you have is multiplied; when your heart is lifted up, and you forget the Lord your God who brought you out of the land of Egypt, ... then it shall be, if you by any means forget the Lord your God, and follow other gods, and serve them and worship them, i testify against you this day that you shall surely perish."
He repented and picked himself up. He started his own business.
For 3.5 years, he has been praying for a financial breakthrough. Nothing. (most people prayed for 2 days and got angry with God.. but this man prayed for 3.5 years. See his persistency?) Worse still, his admin assistant stole his money. She didnt submit 5 quarters of GST and IRAS summoned him a fifteen thousand penalty.
In debt still, pocket zero cent. where to get the money?
He got angry and shouted at God one day. God finally spoke. Daniel 3:16-18, the story of Daniel and his three friends.
"Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-Nego answered and said to the king, "O Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. If that is the case, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnance, and He will deliver us from your hand, O king. But if not, let it be known to you, O king, that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up."
The word of God stroke his heart. He heard the Lord speaking to him. He has been loving God conditionally with strings attached expecting God to bless him each time he serve and give to the Lord. But for Daniel and hi s friends, they loved the Lord unconditionally. Even if God did not come true for them, they still choose to love the Lord and not serve other gods.
He repented immediately. That week he closed a one million dollars sale. That year, his company growth 1000% and ever since then, his company has been growing by 60% each year. He even set up two businesses, one, all profits to bless China, the other profits to bless India (if im not wrong, should be India). He was so blessed now simply because he gave the Lord his unconditional love - Lord, if you come through for me in this crisis, i will praise You, it didnt happen, i will praise You the same.
God is seeking for the unconditional love. Friends, when God did not answer your prayers and give you what you want, what would you do? Get angry with Him and leave Him? Then you missed out what loving God really is, and you will never experienced His unconditional love. His love is, even He knew the world would reject Him, He still come and die for you and me.. a love so true.
In all times, remember Romans 8:28,
"And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose."
All things work out for your good! Amen!!
24 July 2005
会说话的哑巴 2
可可沉醉在这世外桃源，依偎着百年老树，沉睡了。这里没有忙碌的声音，也没有嘈杂的人群。
只有自由的鸟儿在天上唱出快乐的曲调，风儿在耳里轻轻地吹着丝丝的温柔。
在这里，除了的宁静，还是宁静。
不知不觉，可可已睡上了一整天。
一棵白雏菊落在她的手心上，把她给叫醒了。
可可擦了擦眼睛，顿时的美好，好像一场梦。
“如果是场梦，那就别让我醒来吧！”她囔囔的祈祷着。
这时，肚子的音乐奏起来了。
“喔！我有一天没吃东西了！”
她抬头一看，果然，这颗百年老树并没让她失望。
树上红嫩嫩的果实真让她感觉到饿了。
“怎么办？那么高，难道爬吗？”
她东望望，西望望，希望能有个绅士骑着白马的出现，帮她解决问题。
“天啊，半个人影都没有。。看样子，只好自己来吧。。”
她便抓紧了强壮的树干，慢慢地爬上树去。
最靠近的果实好像在千里外，怎么抓也抓不着。
“再申出一点点。。。差一点点。。再一点点。。。啊！！！！”
‘哗啦！’的一声，可可似在滑梯上，滑了下来，落在草地上。
“呼。。 好痛。。”
还来不及安慰自己，突然，眼前出现了一只手。。
就在这里，她遇见了他。。
***待续
21 July 2005
会说话的哑巴 1
可可随着蝴蝶的踪迹，来到了另一个国度。。。幽幽的山，碌碌的叶，还有五颜六色美丽的鲜花散发着清新的花香。。感觉好舒服，风景十分迷人。可可第一时间就爱上了这个地方。
那天的天气十分凉爽，风儿轻轻地吹，草啊，花儿啊，都翩翩起舞来了！可可想到处逛逛，想把这里的一切美好都牢牢记在心里。她来到了一棵百年老树，他那宽大的树木舒展了他的安全感与慈祥，好有亲切感。可可顿时投入了他的怀抱，安慰，与成全。。眼泪不知不觉地流了出来。
突然间，一阵风儿轻轻地吹过，一朵一朵的白雏菊似雪一样的飘落了下来，柔柔地淋在可可的身上，解放了她的忧伤。 上天好像在告诉可可他与她同在，可可并没有被舍弃。他呼唤了风，把可可的忧伤与烦恼像白雏菊班，随风而逝。
可可发现这里十分安静。这里的人都不说话。他们是用手语来沟通的。
原来，可可来到了哑巴国。
***待续
20 July 2005
Paradoxical Commandments of Leadership
i was reading a book in the train today and i came across something goood!
Proabably some of you might have seen this before, but i felt we should always remember this!
***
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered - love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives - do good anyway.
If you're successful, you'll win false friends and true enemies - succeed anyway.
The good you do today will perhaps be forgotten tomorrow - do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable - be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest man with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest man with the smallest mind - think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only hot dogs - fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight - build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you need help - help them anyway.
Give the world the best that you have and you will get kicked in the teeth - give the world the best that you have anyway.
The best statement is: IF BETTER IS POSSIBLE, THEN GOOD IS NOT ENOUGH.
Proabably some of you might have seen this before, but i felt we should always remember this!
***
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered - love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives - do good anyway.
If you're successful, you'll win false friends and true enemies - succeed anyway.
The good you do today will perhaps be forgotten tomorrow - do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable - be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest man with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest man with the smallest mind - think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only hot dogs - fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight - build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you need help - help them anyway.
Give the world the best that you have and you will get kicked in the teeth - give the world the best that you have anyway.
The best statement is: IF BETTER IS POSSIBLE, THEN GOOD IS NOT ENOUGH.
***
"Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me." -Matthew 25:40
19 July 2005
Thus saith the Lord..
i remembered the day when tears flowed like river... it never run dry..
***
"remember the prayer that you prayed? You wanted to grow, you wanted to have a breakthrough?
Thats why you are going through what you are going through now. You will grow after you breakthrough from all these problems. YOU WILL GROW! Be strong and of good courage, knowing that i am conquering it with you. i am with you from the beginning till now, and will be. My mercy never fails. Just keep on doing the work that i have started in you"
"Lord, i have done so many things that have let You down. I have done so many things wrong in Your sight.
I deserved to be put down, i dont deserve what i have right now... i have messed it up.. You should have put me down and stripped me off my crown...."
"because i love you..."
*weeps*
"Lord its too much that i could bear. Im tired. i just cant bring myself to carry on. I hated all these.. I just want the simplicity of You..."
"The simplicity of me is that you take up the cross and follow me. My yoke is easy and my burden is light. All things are possible, if you believe."
"Be strong and of good courage, and do it; do not fear nor be dismayed, for the Lord God - my God - will be with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you, until you have finished all the work for the service of the house of the Lord"
- 2 Chronicles 28:20
***
"remember the prayer that you prayed? You wanted to grow, you wanted to have a breakthrough?
Thats why you are going through what you are going through now. You will grow after you breakthrough from all these problems. YOU WILL GROW! Be strong and of good courage, knowing that i am conquering it with you. i am with you from the beginning till now, and will be. My mercy never fails. Just keep on doing the work that i have started in you"
"Lord, i have done so many things that have let You down. I have done so many things wrong in Your sight.
I deserved to be put down, i dont deserve what i have right now... i have messed it up.. You should have put me down and stripped me off my crown...."
"because i love you..."
*weeps*
"Lord its too much that i could bear. Im tired. i just cant bring myself to carry on. I hated all these.. I just want the simplicity of You..."
"The simplicity of me is that you take up the cross and follow me. My yoke is easy and my burden is light. All things are possible, if you believe."
"Be strong and of good courage, and do it; do not fear nor be dismayed, for the Lord God - my God - will be with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you, until you have finished all the work for the service of the house of the Lord"
- 2 Chronicles 28:20
Re: Anger
Talking about anger. Im pretty angry with certain things recently too;
To summarise, betrayed. utterly betrayed. To think someone who you trusted so much can be so mean to you. How would you feel when someone indirectly trying to directly demean you?
oh... im picking up a new life. I am beautiful no matter what they say, words can bring me down!
***
Anger. Where does it start? Where does it end?
We can always be angry with 101 things.. To forgive, its just a "sooner" or "later" thing. So why not make it fast? Set yourself free and others as well, and carry on with our happy life.
Dinner time turned up to be supper time.
1. I was upset by the incident, too. But well, the gathering was not as often as it used to be, so why not chose to keep the atmosphere cool and enjoyable. I tried so hard to talk to him, but towards the end of the fellowship, i felt anger drained away from me. Probably my "ren gong" is better.
2. Sometimes people takes longer time to realise their mistake and change. Sometimes people just refuses to change. Sometimes people just taking things for granted, thinking that we will not change. Or proabably the change is so minimal that we could not see. no comment.
3. I was surprised by the sloppy decision our Friend made that day. But well, he chose it. At least we learned something new from the decision he made, knowing where we stand.
4. God is always on time. I believed God knew and He saw it, thats why He sent an angel to accompany you home. =)
Anger. It starts in you, so it must end in you. Best is - end it the moment it begin to start.
So, stay happy and cool! There's lots of things to be angry about. i.e. not being able to sleep in wee hours.
But after you fell asleep and wake up the next morning, you will be happy again! - at least, managed to get some sleep, than you never sleep at all.
To summarise, betrayed. utterly betrayed. To think someone who you trusted so much can be so mean to you. How would you feel when someone indirectly trying to directly demean you?
oh... im picking up a new life. I am beautiful no matter what they say, words can bring me down!
***
Anger. Where does it start? Where does it end?
We can always be angry with 101 things.. To forgive, its just a "sooner" or "later" thing. So why not make it fast? Set yourself free and others as well, and carry on with our happy life.
Dinner time turned up to be supper time.
1. I was upset by the incident, too. But well, the gathering was not as often as it used to be, so why not chose to keep the atmosphere cool and enjoyable. I tried so hard to talk to him, but towards the end of the fellowship, i felt anger drained away from me. Probably my "ren gong" is better.
2. Sometimes people takes longer time to realise their mistake and change. Sometimes people just refuses to change. Sometimes people just taking things for granted, thinking that we will not change. Or proabably the change is so minimal that we could not see. no comment.
3. I was surprised by the sloppy decision our Friend made that day. But well, he chose it. At least we learned something new from the decision he made, knowing where we stand.
4. God is always on time. I believed God knew and He saw it, thats why He sent an angel to accompany you home. =)
Anger. It starts in you, so it must end in you. Best is - end it the moment it begin to start.
So, stay happy and cool! There's lots of things to be angry about. i.e. not being able to sleep in wee hours.
But after you fell asleep and wake up the next morning, you will be happy again! - at least, managed to get some sleep, than you never sleep at all.
"love covers multitudes of sins"
cased closed. dead and was buried. R.I.P
17 July 2005
An angel was sent to me today
God is good. He is always on time. In my down-est time, He sends an angel to lift me up.
This post is specially dedicated for my dear friend Jasmine.
Thanks for your call tonight. You will never know how much this call meant to me.
Your sincerity, passion and heart for the Lord really touches my spirit.
The reason i am willing to stand up and try again.. its because of you.
Thanks for standing by my side, always.
This post is specially dedicated for my dear friend Jasmine.
Thanks for your call tonight. You will never know how much this call meant to me.
Your sincerity, passion and heart for the Lord really touches my spirit.
The reason i am willing to stand up and try again.. its because of you.
Thanks for standing by my side, always.
03 June 2005
Give me one moment in time
Each day i live , i want to be
A day to give, the best of me
I'm only one, but not alone
My finest day is yet unknown
I broke my heart, for every gain,
To taste the sweet, i faced the pain
I raise and fall, yet through it all,
this much remains, i want refrain..
One moment in time, when i'm more than i thought i could be
When all of my dreams are a heartbeat away, and the answers are all up to me
Give me one moment in time, when i'm racing with destiny
And then in that one moment of time, i will feel eternity
I've lived to be the very best i wanted all...
A day to give, the best of me
I'm only one, but not alone
My finest day is yet unknown
I broke my heart, for every gain,
To taste the sweet, i faced the pain
I raise and fall, yet through it all,
this much remains, i want refrain..
One moment in time, when i'm more than i thought i could be
When all of my dreams are a heartbeat away, and the answers are all up to me
Give me one moment in time, when i'm racing with destiny
And then in that one moment of time, i will feel eternity
I've lived to be the very best i wanted all...
听得到我的歌
你听得到我的歌吗？
你是否会拿你的心与我回应？
如果听见我的歌，
你是否会牵引我，进你心灵？
如果有一天，音乐停了，
你是否会记得我？
记得我的好，记得我的笑,
记得一起走过的岁月?
如果有一天，阳光不再向你微笑,
你是否会记得往日的灿烂?
记得我们的日记，我们的分享,
从开始到现在，已刻在我心上.
到后来才发现，
不想失去的，并不是自己。
而是身旁的人。
想拥有的，并不是自己。
而是亲宜爱。
拥有了你，就想拥有了世界。
你在哪儿？
好久不见。
你是否会拿你的心与我回应？
如果听见我的歌，
你是否会牵引我，进你心灵？
如果有一天，音乐停了，
你是否会记得我？
记得我的好，记得我的笑,
记得一起走过的岁月?
如果有一天，阳光不再向你微笑,
你是否会记得往日的灿烂?
记得我们的日记，我们的分享,
从开始到现在，已刻在我心上.
到后来才发现，
不想失去的，并不是自己。
而是身旁的人。
想拥有的，并不是自己。
而是亲宜爱。
拥有了你，就想拥有了世界。
你在哪儿？
好久不见。
29 May 2005
16 May 2005
My sex identity profile
I did a survey by BBC on "Brain Sex" today.
My overall brain score scaled NEUTRAL.
The scale is an indication of where i fall in the male/female brain continuum.
The results are based on the four mind tests - angles, spot the difference, 3D shapes and words.
The average score for MEN who took that survey was 50.
The average score for WOMEN who took the survey was 50.
Mine was 0. (in between man and woman)
So what did i do to deserve to be put on the netural ground between man and woman?
PART 1
(A) ANGLES.
This task tested on our ability to identify the angle of a line by matching it with its twin.
This is a spatial task, which looks at how we picture space.
My score was 14 out of 20
Score 13-17: You found his test neither hard nor easy. This suggests your brain has male and female traits when it comes to spatial ability.
Average men score: 16.4
Average women score: 14.7
(wooo... i just passed. ok, im near to female brain.)
Interestingly men's testosterone levels fluctuate through the seasons and studies have shown that men's scores are lower in the spring, when their testosterone levels are at their lowest.
(B) SPOT THE DIFFERENCE
This task tested your ability to identify which objects changed position.
My score: 100%
Between 67 - 100%: Those with a female-type brain generally score in this range. Your ability to remember where objects are may serve as an advantage to you when you're trying to find your way around places. You're more capable of recalling landmarks to get from one place to another.
Average men score: 42%
Average women socre: 57%
(full marks! hahah.. never know i can remember things so clearly.But i think only for this - once!)
PART 2
(A) HANDS
Clasped your hands together.
If your right thumb is on top: This suggests the left half of your brain is dominant. May studies have tried to establish whether there is a relationship between handedness and brain dominance. Some scientists believed that if you are left brain dominant, you would be more verbal and analytical.
If your left thumb is on top: This suggests the right half of your brain is dominant. Some studies theorise that as a right brain dominant person, you may excel in visual, spatial and intutive processes.
However, these theories are debtable and leave much to be said about the small % of people who are ambidextrous.
(Im left brain dominant. But i am not verbal. I like to keep quiet. Talking sometimes is tiring..) Analytical.. i dont think i am. this survey breaks down here. haha)
PART 3
(A) Emotions and Systems
This task looked at whether you prefer to empathise or systemise.
Empathy:
My empathy score is 8 out of 20!!!!!!! (oh my gosh!!!)
Empathisers are better at accurately judging other people's emotions and responding appropriately. If you scored 15 <, you are very empathic and would be an ideal person to comfort people in a time of crisis. Women in general are better at empathising.
Average men score: 4-12
Average women score: 8-15
(ok.. at least i just passed.. )
Systemising
My systemising score is 4 out of 20
Systemiers perfer to investigate how system works. A system can be a road map, flat pack furniture, or a mathematical equation, anything that follows a set of rules. A score of 15< suggests you're good at analysing or building systems. Men in general are better at systemising.
Average men score: 8-16
Average women score: 3-12
(ok.. im more to female brain.. )
(B) EYES
This task tested our ability to judge people's emotions.
My score: 6 out of 10
Score 4-6: Your results suggests you have a balanced female-male brain and find it neither easy nor difficult to judge people's emotions.
Average score: 6-9
(just passed. Hm, need to work on my discernment.)
PART 4
(A) Fingers
You got to measure your ring and index finger.
My ratio:
Right hand: 1.07
Left hand: 0.96
It's thought that your ration is governed by the amount of testosterone you were exposed to in your mother's womb. The ration of the length of your index finger to the length of your ring finger is set for life by as early as three months after conception. Even during puberty, when we experience intensive hormonal changes, the ratio stays the same.
Men generally have a ring finger that is longer than their index finger, which gives them a lower ration than women, whose ring and index fingers are usually of equal length.
Avergae men ratio: 0.96
Average women ratio: 1.00
(oooOo.. my right makes me more a like a woman, my left, man??!?)
PART 5
(A) FACES
This task looked at how you rate the attractiveness of series of faces. The images you looked at were digitally altered to create slight difference in masculinity.
My choices suggests i prefer more masculine faces. (of course! im a female. i like "masculine" man like...)
Highly masculinised male faces possess more extreme testosterone markers such as a long broad and lower jaw as well as more pronounced brow ridges and cheekbones.
Interestingly, women's preference are said to cary across the menstual phase. A more masculine face is preferred during the 9 days prior to ovulaion, when ceonception is more likely.
A typical "attractive" female face possesses feature such as a shorter, narrower, lower jaw, fuller lips and larger eyes than an average face.
PART 6
(A) 3D SHAPES
This task tested your ability to mentally rotate 3D shapes.
My score is 10 out of 12
10-12: People with theses skills tend to score in this range. Past studies have concluded that people in this range have a more male brain.
Average men score: 8.4
Average women score: 6.4
(wooo! im aboove average! hahaha)
(B) WORDS
This task looked at your verbal fluency.
My score: 1 word
1-5 words: You are a more of the strong, silent type with a male brain. You probably find it easier to express yourself in non-verbal ways, preferring action rather than words.
6-10 words: most people in this range have a female-type brain.
Average score: 6-10
(now i know why i my overall brain score dropped to neutral.... )
You may want to try the test at www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/sex.html
My overall brain score scaled NEUTRAL.
The scale is an indication of where i fall in the male/female brain continuum.
The results are based on the four mind tests - angles, spot the difference, 3D shapes and words.
The average score for MEN who took that survey was 50.
The average score for WOMEN who took the survey was 50.
Mine was 0. (in between man and woman)
So what did i do to deserve to be put on the netural ground between man and woman?
PART 1
(A) ANGLES.
This task tested on our ability to identify the angle of a line by matching it with its twin.
This is a spatial task, which looks at how we picture space.
My score was 14 out of 20
Score 13-17: You found his test neither hard nor easy. This suggests your brain has male and female traits when it comes to spatial ability.
Average men score: 16.4
Average women score: 14.7
(wooo... i just passed. ok, im near to female brain.)
Interestingly men's testosterone levels fluctuate through the seasons and studies have shown that men's scores are lower in the spring, when their testosterone levels are at their lowest.
(B) SPOT THE DIFFERENCE
This task tested your ability to identify which objects changed position.
My score: 100%
Between 67 - 100%: Those with a female-type brain generally score in this range. Your ability to remember where objects are may serve as an advantage to you when you're trying to find your way around places. You're more capable of recalling landmarks to get from one place to another.
Average men score: 42%
Average women socre: 57%
(full marks! hahah.. never know i can remember things so clearly.But i think only for this - once!)
PART 2
(A) HANDS
Clasped your hands together.
If your right thumb is on top: This suggests the left half of your brain is dominant. May studies have tried to establish whether there is a relationship between handedness and brain dominance. Some scientists believed that if you are left brain dominant, you would be more verbal and analytical.
If your left thumb is on top: This suggests the right half of your brain is dominant. Some studies theorise that as a right brain dominant person, you may excel in visual, spatial and intutive processes.
However, these theories are debtable and leave much to be said about the small % of people who are ambidextrous.
(Im left brain dominant. But i am not verbal. I like to keep quiet. Talking sometimes is tiring..) Analytical.. i dont think i am. this survey breaks down here. haha)
PART 3
(A) Emotions and Systems
This task looked at whether you prefer to empathise or systemise.
Empathy:
My empathy score is 8 out of 20!!!!!!! (oh my gosh!!!)
Empathisers are better at accurately judging other people's emotions and responding appropriately. If you scored 15 <, you are very empathic and would be an ideal person to comfort people in a time of crisis. Women in general are better at empathising.
Average men score: 4-12
Average women score: 8-15
(ok.. at least i just passed.. )
Systemising
My systemising score is 4 out of 20
Systemiers perfer to investigate how system works. A system can be a road map, flat pack furniture, or a mathematical equation, anything that follows a set of rules. A score of 15< suggests you're good at analysing or building systems. Men in general are better at systemising.
Average men score: 8-16
Average women score: 3-12
(ok.. im more to female brain.. )
(B) EYES
This task tested our ability to judge people's emotions.
My score: 6 out of 10
Score 4-6: Your results suggests you have a balanced female-male brain and find it neither easy nor difficult to judge people's emotions.
Average score: 6-9
(just passed. Hm, need to work on my discernment.)
PART 4
(A) Fingers
You got to measure your ring and index finger.
My ratio:
Right hand: 1.07
Left hand: 0.96
It's thought that your ration is governed by the amount of testosterone you were exposed to in your mother's womb. The ration of the length of your index finger to the length of your ring finger is set for life by as early as three months after conception. Even during puberty, when we experience intensive hormonal changes, the ratio stays the same.
Men generally have a ring finger that is longer than their index finger, which gives them a lower ration than women, whose ring and index fingers are usually of equal length.
Avergae men ratio: 0.96
Average women ratio: 1.00
(oooOo.. my right makes me more a like a woman, my left, man??!?)
PART 5
(A) FACES
This task looked at how you rate the attractiveness of series of faces. The images you looked at were digitally altered to create slight difference in masculinity.
My choices suggests i prefer more masculine faces. (of course! im a female. i like "masculine" man like...)
Highly masculinised male faces possess more extreme testosterone markers such as a long broad and lower jaw as well as more pronounced brow ridges and cheekbones.
Interestingly, women's preference are said to cary across the menstual phase. A more masculine face is preferred during the 9 days prior to ovulaion, when ceonception is more likely.
A typical "attractive" female face possesses feature such as a shorter, narrower, lower jaw, fuller lips and larger eyes than an average face.
PART 6
(A) 3D SHAPES
This task tested your ability to mentally rotate 3D shapes.
My score is 10 out of 12
10-12: People with theses skills tend to score in this range. Past studies have concluded that people in this range have a more male brain.
Average men score: 8.4
Average women score: 6.4
(wooo! im aboove average! hahaha)
(B) WORDS
This task looked at your verbal fluency.
My score: 1 word
1-5 words: You are a more of the strong, silent type with a male brain. You probably find it easier to express yourself in non-verbal ways, preferring action rather than words.
6-10 words: most people in this range have a female-type brain.
Average score: 6-10
(now i know why i my overall brain score dropped to neutral.... )
You may want to try the test at www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/sex.html
09 May 2005
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