I.Q vs A.Q

I.Q = Intelligent Quotient

A.Q = Attitude Quotient

A Yale University present some years ago gave an advice to a former present of Ohio state:

Always be kind to your A and B student. Someday one of them will return to your campus as a good professor. And also be kind to your C students. Someday one of them will return and build a two-million-dollar science laboratory.
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Wow, wOW and WOW! what a powerful speech. There's always hope for those who doesnt do well academically! (but well, please dont use this as a leeway not to work hard!)

There is very little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference.
The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.

But i feel that this story can bring another message too. Dont just persue life. You may be at the top of everything, i.e. a very successful career, top student in school, ace relationship with family and friends.. but yet, persue the life Giver, who can give you more abundantly.

He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
-Matthew 10:39

Attitude

Attitude is really about how a person is. That overflows into how he acts.

Here's a story to share...

A grandpa and a grandma visit their grandchildren very often. Each afternoon the grandpa will lie down for a nap. One day, as a practical joke, the kids decided to put Limburger cheese in this mustache. Quite soon he awoke sniffing. "Why, this room stinks.." he exclaimed as he got up and went out into the kitchen., He wasnt there long until he decided that the kitchen smelled too, so he walked outdoors for a breathe of fresh air. Much to grandpa's surprise, the open air brought no relief, and he proclaimed, "The whole world stinks"

Isnt it so true? We carry "Limburger cheese" in our attitudes, the whole world smells bad. We are individually responsible for our view of life. Truth has contained in the scripture, "For whatever a man sow, he will surely reap". Our attitude toward and action in life help determine what happens to us.

Life is not easy. Almost daily we witness jobs that are held but hated and marriages hat are tolerated but unhappy, all because people are wiating for others, or the world, to change instead of realizing that they are responsible for their own behavior.

Our attitude determines our approach to life. So change.
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Just a drop of dew
Can make your life anew~

Big pockets, small mind

I came across an article yesterday in Her World magazine.
Was fuming mad when i read it. How on earth such people exist in here?!
Its a long article, but want to blog it out and share with you guys and gals,
Please, when you become rich one day, dont become like this..

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"What rich women do to stay rich"

A young woman walks into a high-end boutique and picks up five dresses but pays only for two.
Two doors away is her regular jeweller, where she tries on a necklace and matching set of earrings. She pays only for the necklace, and waltzes out the door with the gold and diamond chandelier earrings swinging off her ears.

At the makeup counter in the department store, she tries everything, buys nothing, then leaves with a bag full of samples - all in full sizes. Then its off to her plastic surgeon's clinic, where she;s booked for a Botox and microdermabrasion session.

She emerges hours later with a fresh new face and no intention of paying for the procedures. "I'll pay you the next time," she lies breezily to the glabbergasted nurse as she climbs into her Lexus and drives home to her three-storey terrance off Orchard Road.

If you're looking around for store security and the police to show up by now, dont bother. No one has blown the whistle on Vicky (no her real name), and n one likely will.

Enter the world of the rich woman who gets away with plunder.

Vicky has, in the spce of one afternoon, left behind thousands of dollars in unpaid bills. She can afford to pay those bills many times over, but expects the stores and plastic surgeon to write them off. What is more alarming is that they will. Case closed.

Why are women like Vicky, a 31-year-old single who receives a few thousand dollars in pocket money a month from her father, above the simple laws of the land? The answer is simple: because she is rich.

Vicky is a customer that these businesses cannot afford to lose, because she has proven at least once before that she has the means to ring up huge bills - and pay up. More importantly, she also has friends who can.

"I spend a lot at these place that i patronise, and I'm always introducing my many girlfriends to them. They should be prepared to give out freebies to keep customers like me," says the impeccably groomed socialite, whose parents have two maids and two cars for their family of four. What most people would loook upon as daylight robbery, Vicky thinks is just good customer service.

As the first link in a chain of big spenders, she feels entitled to rewards for her part as a deal-maker. She calls her freebies her "commission" for recommending customers to her creditors.

"I am not a cheapskate. I have been contributing a lot to their business over the years. The clinic and stores can always call me to remind me about an unpaid bill, or remind when I'm there, but so far, i have heard nothing from them. What does that tell you? That they regard me as a very important customer."

There is no dispute there. These businesses that cater mainly to the wealthy all agree that such women are an invaluable asset when it comes to word-of-mouth publicity. But if they had a choice, they would rather be the first to offer thanks to these women thatn to have the thanks yanked out of them, and in ways that would raise an auditor's eyebrow.

To add salt to gaping wound, most of the friends whom these women recommend tend to share the same views on the Great Commission come payment time.

One retailer, who did not want to be named for fear of such women turning nasty on her, has put up with Vicky and her friends for years.

She recalls, "She came to my shop, bought about $200 worth of stuffs then helped herself to a few more items from the shelf - worth over $300 - all because she has been a regular for the last few years. telling her to put it back would only ruin the relationship. Chances are, she will get angry or offended and will never step into the shop again." The customers Vicky recommends dont help the shopowner recover her losses. "Her friends? They aren't very different. They expect free gifts too!" To which Vicky simply replies: "It's a matter of give and take; you help me, I help you."

People like her know they can get away with it because many store owners would rather keep quiet than take them to taks and risk them spreading negative publicity of the store to their rich pals.

Its an ugly word, but women like Vicky and her friends are freeloaders, and boutique owners and plastic surgeons are at a loss as to what they can do about them.

Why plastic surgeons alone and not all doctors? The smae reason why these women wouldnt pull a fast one at restaurants - you dont want to offend the one who prepares your food or fixes your heart. But with plastic surgery and aesthetic work, it's about elective surgery - and elective payment. A doctor in private practice observes with pained amusement that wealthy freeloaders "see it as an entitlement, that we doctors should think ourselves privileged that they would even consider us to touch their faces."

Its get more audacious than this, he adds: "some tell me after I've done the treatments: "Hey, I'm a walking advertisement for you. I've got lots of rich friends I can recommend to you, so why should i pay you?"

Then there is this unspoken presumption. "They have the impression that we make a lot of money from aestheic treatments and wouldnt feel the pinch of an unpaid bill."

Freeloaders who are less bold would show up at aesthetic clinics asking for "free trials", or blame the doctor for performing work that they didnt ask for.

Says a consultant dermatologist: "Soon after I introduced a new IPL machine, i was bombarded by calls from 'old friends' whom i dont remember meeting at parties i dont remember attending. They will come to my clinic, ask for the cheapest treatment, then agree to add-ons when they're being treated.

"If my nurse asks them to settle the bill, they will say they didnt ask for the add-ons, that i suggested they try it so that shouldnt have to pay. Usually, i'd let such cases go than to stand there and haggle with them."

Such save-money, lose-face methods are not the domain of wealthy women. Men, too, are guilty - and so are famous personalities. A senior dermatologist in public practice recalls how years ago, one popular Singaporean actor tried to get away without paying his bill of thousands of dollars.

"He said he would pay up later, but we never heard from him. Later, we called him, but the number was no longer in use. We also sent reminders to his house, but the letters got returned because he wasnt living there anymore. In the end, we just dropped the as it wasnt worth the hassle."

One day, the same actor calls the clinic for an appointment. "He must have forgotten that he owed us money - or hoped that we had," says the doctor. "The nurse recognised his voice and reminded him that he had an unpaid bill. He said he would send the cheque but he never did, and that was the last we heard from him."

While the five plastic surgeons, aesthetic doctors and dermatologists we spoke to have all come across wealthy patients who default on payment, the numbers are not staggering enough to warrant strong action.

An Orchard Road dermatologist puts the number of bad debtors at under 1 per cent, "despite repeated reminders." Cosmetic surgeon Martin Huang of MD Specialist Healthcare says unpaid bills can come up to several thousands dollars annually. Others sat it ranges of between a few hundred to a few thousand.

It may not seem like much, but as one general practitioner who offers aesthetic treatments puts it, "every doctors who are stuggling to keep their practices open because of bad debt.

Among retailers, the losses are less significant. One estimates that such "free advertising" cost her about $500 to $1000 a month. Others put it at $200 to $300 per person. Instead of reporting these culprits to the authorities, or filing a claim at the Small Claims Tribunal (which handles cases where less than $10,000 is at stake), everyone is keeping mum, sayin it's not worth the time, money and goodwill.

Says a boutique owner, "These taitais can be very influential. If they badmouth my store to their friends, i may lost more money than the value of freebies i am forced to give out."

For plastic surgeons, many of these freeloaders are social acquaintance of their friends' wives - whom they may be seated next to at the next society do. If they dont keep mum, rest assured that any frozen looks cast at them then wont be caused by Botox.

Not every creditor is taking this financial sitting down.

Common practice among the plastic surgeons we spoke to is to keep a little black book of tardy patients. "We wont turn them away, but we will ask them ot put a 20 per cent deposit when a surgery date is booked and to pay up on the day of surgery," says Dr Huang. "Is she has a bad credit assessment in our records, we will ask her to pay the full sum before any work is done."

And instead of offering package deals, where a patient is more likely to stop returning once they see some improvment to their looks, doctors are turning to pay per-treatment services. Others simple decline requests for deferred payments.

A patient has even thrown a tantrum at one such clinic, where she dramatically overturned her handbag and emptied it of its contents to show that she really had no means to pay up there and then.

The nurse stood her ground long enough for the woman to relent and finally fish out a credit card - a platinum one, no less.

extracted from Her World, Septemeber issue P144 to P146
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i have learnt something. The world is never fair. God is not fair. And please, rejoice that He is not a fair God. Blasphemous? Read on.

Fairness = You are not treated as an individual. You are being treated in a corporate view. Everyone get their fair share, the good and the evil.
Justice = You are being treated distinctively and uniquely. God gives you personal attention. And He treats you according to what you deserve. Good or evil.

God is better than fair. He is JUST! (well, the wicked will have their fare)

But woe to you who are rich, For you have received your consolation.
- Luke 6:24

So is he who lays up treasure for himself, and is not rich toward God.
- Luke 12:21

He has filled the hungry with good things, And the rich He has sent away empty.
- Luke 1:53

I must pray that i will not become like these taitais when i become rich! If i will be, please! dont let me be rich! i only want to be righteously rich. i want to be a blessing - big pockets, big mind and not forgetting, a big heart!

And you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you power to get wealth, that He may establish His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day.
-Deu 8:18

Then Jesus said to His disciples, "Assuredly, I say to you that it is hard for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. And again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.
- Matthew 19:23-24

My flesh says, "good verse! God, dont allow these rich taitais go to heaven!! yes!!" But my spirit says God loves them all, good or bad, He loves them all. I want to yield to my spirit, so i CHOOSE to be magnanimous. Anyway, who am i to judge? I felt happier and less unjustifiable. Anyway, its none of my business. hahha.

Yeah friends, its just a matter of A CHOICE.

There's so many things you can be angry and unhappy about..
com'on, choose to live longer.

Staying happy.

无颜的爱

爱，是什么颜色？

浪漫热情的红色？
辛福快乐的黄色？
舒适迷情的橙色？
和谐清澈的禄色？
稳定忠诚的蓝色？
独立奢侈的紫色？
单纯完美的白色？
深而奥秘的黑色？

我说啊。。 爱，是无色。
透而清晰，毫无遐思，100%的纯洁。
让人看得彻底，看得清楚。

就是这样，简简单单。

简单爱。

在为这个blog做些research时，偶然的发现一个网站关于颜色。蛮好的。瞧一瞧！
http://www.mariaclaudiacortes.com/colors/Colors.html

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教我如何去爱你。
我还在学习。

Happy Birthday

Today is my bloggy 2nd birthday.

Happy birthday metamorphoziz.blogspot.com!

Nothing to blog.. but just want to share a pic of my friend..

I love this pic! So cute and innocent!!

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Life is great, so flaunt it!

Inspired

Its FOP again. Been a long time since i went for FOP. for the past 3 years, i think?
Reached indoor at 6pm, doors has already opened, and the queue was huge.
Was directed to the balcony, but managed to find 3 seats on the "T" section. Diagonally from the stage. far far away. But gave up my seat and went to sit with Pascale's friends - Yanqi, Peihua and Poh Lin at the balcony.
First time at the balcony. lots of new songs by Hillsong and Delirious. Cant see the screen, cant catch the lyrics. Enjoy though. Atmosphere no good. But the presence of God is there. I can feel it. Strange. haa.
Lesson learnt: Atmosphere can be created. Presence cannot. God is real, you cant denied it.

After the meeting, met this man, Mr Wilson Tan. His stories are truly inspirational.
Saved at the age of 17.
By the age of 32, he was a general manager of a American company earning thousands. A man without any degree qualifications.
Spectaculated in shares, earned his millions. Couple of millions in his bank at his disposal.
Drove big car, stayed at a bungalow with 15 rooms at Holland Village.
Age 35. Puffed up by all this riches, thinking that he achieved it alone without God and backslided.
His befall begins. Lost two millions, four hundred thousands in debt. Wife and children left him. lost his house, his car. Declared bankruptcy.
No jobs. Heavily in debt. But he kept reading the bible despite he backslided and the Lord showed him Deu 8, Remember the Lord Your God..

"Beware that you do not forget the Lord your God by not keeping His commandments, His judgements, and His statues which i command you today, lest - when you have eaten and are full, and have built beautiful houses and dwell in them; and when your herds and your flocks multiply, and your silver and your gold are multiplied, and all that you have is multiplied; when your heart is lifted up, and you forget the Lord your God who brought you out of the land of Egypt, ... then it shall be, if you by any means forget the Lord your God, and follow other gods, and serve them and worship them, i testify against you this day that you shall surely perish."

He repented and picked himself up. He started his own business.
For 3.5 years, he has been praying for a financial breakthrough. Nothing. (most people prayed for 2 days and got angry with God.. but this man prayed for 3.5 years. See his persistency?) Worse still, his admin assistant stole his money. She didnt submit 5 quarters of GST and IRAS summoned him a fifteen thousand penalty.
In debt still, pocket zero cent. where to get the money?
He got angry and shouted at God one day. God finally spoke. Daniel 3:16-18, the story of Daniel and his three friends.

"Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-Nego answered and said to the king, "O Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. If that is the case, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnance, and He will deliver us from your hand, O king. But if not, let it be known to you, O king, that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up."

The word of God stroke his heart. He heard the Lord speaking to him. He has been loving God conditionally with strings attached expecting God to bless him each time he serve and give to the Lord. But for Daniel and hi s friends, they loved the Lord unconditionally. Even if God did not come true for them, they still choose to love the Lord and not serve other gods.

He repented immediately. That week he closed a one million dollars sale. That year, his company growth 1000% and ever since then, his company has been growing by 60% each year. He even set up two businesses, one, all profits to bless China, the other profits to bless India (if im not wrong, should be India). He was so blessed now simply because he gave the Lord his unconditional love - Lord, if you come through for me in this crisis, i will praise You, it didnt happen, i will praise You the same.

God is seeking for the unconditional love. Friends, when God did not answer your prayers and give you what you want, what would you do? Get angry with Him and leave Him? Then you missed out what loving God really is, and you will never experienced His unconditional love. His love is, even He knew the world would reject Him, He still come and die for you and me.. a love so true.

In all times, remember Romans 8:28,

"And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose."

All things work out for your good! Amen!!